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Date Night Disaster

Ryan Eidson  —  October 14, 2014

The following is an excerpt from my book, A Couple with Common Cents, from the chapter titled “Date Night Disaster”.

“Debt will always be part of life!” Jack said as he dropped his fork on his plate. Some of the people at adjacent tables in the restaurant gave Jack a look because he had raised his voice.Tab looked down at her plate. She knew this date night dinner did not get off to a good start.

Jack lowered his voice and continued, “I have seen debt my whole life, and I’m used to it. My father has always carried an operating loan on his farm so that he could keep the farm running in order to feed us.

“So you’re telling me that you want to change what we’ve done all these years just because of what one woman said at the conference last weekend?”

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“Jack, listen to me. I’ve tried to tell you for several months about our lack of funds. What I saw last weekend were several other families in the same situation as us, and the hope that it doesn’t have to continue being like this.”

“I don’t see any reason to change what we’re doing. We have a place to live, there’s plenty of food to eat, and our kids seem to be happy. I’m happy. So there.”

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The following is an excerpt from Ryan’s realistic fiction book, A Couple with Common Cents. The text comes from the first two chapters of this book. I originally self-published this book one year ago.

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Tabitha heard many birds chirping as she drove home from work. It was the first day of spring. Even though the weather was really nice outside, Tabitha had some concerns nagging at her heart.

She drove to the day care to pick up her two young children. She placed Kyle and Katie in the back seat of the family minivan. Kyle reached over to Katie and stole the toy she was playing with. She started to cry.

“It’s mine and I’m playing with it!” Kyle said.

“Get along back there, you two,” Tabitha said as she drove home. “Kyle, please give that back to her.”Kyle, four, loved to pester his younger sister. She just turned two the other day. He gave Katie her toy back, and she stopped crying.

Tabitha took time for reflection as she drove them home. During their first year of marriage, like most couples do, Jack and Tabitha were living high on love. They were young and did not give much thought to their long-term future. Now, nearly six years after their initial bliss, they were stuck in the grind of life. Continue Reading…

What Happens When a Child Confronts His Parents about the Way They Handle Their Money?

The July 2014 issue of The Best You, a magazine from London, featured an article that I wrote: “Don’t Lose Financial Autonomy”.

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My article begins with this story:

One husband started a small engine business after his wife got fired from her job. Even though the household income was less than before, this did not change their spending habits.

The wife’s lavish spending patterns soon put them tens of thousands of dollars into the hole. She asked for money from others and borrowed money from her children on many occasions to pay the bills. The wife hid these bills from her husband. She would always sneak out to get the mail every day.

One of their sons began to be suspect that something was not quite right. One day, he went out to get the mail and found some credit card bills. He confronted his mom about it, but she swore him—a 13-year-old boy—to secrecy!

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(Look Up: a video on YouTube about social media)

Is social media distracting you from building relationships with the people who are sitting or standing right in front of you?

Do you feel that you have to grab your phone every time it buzzes, and interrupt the conversation you’re having with the person who is right beside you?

Have we taken this social media thing too far?

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Have you wondered who you really are?

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I have often wondered who I am. What defines me? What is the center of my being? Through the years I have attempted to identify myself through different means.

When I was much younger I wanted to be like my dad. As the firstborn son, I imitated what he did and said. Sometimes my mom (and now my wife) will tell me, after I say something, “That sounds like your dad.” So I looked to my dad and my family name to figure out who I was.

In high school, my classmates and I often identified ourselves by our school name and/or mascot. When we cheered at sporting events or wore our band uniforms, we said our collective name by the location we were from and school we attended.

From time to time, I thought about who I was in light of what I did, for example: how my grades were in school, or what I did for part-time jobs. It was really easy to rate myself according to how others saw me, and it was difficult for me to say no things, because I wanted to please other people. But that did not result in lasting fulfillment.

How do we identify ourselves here, today? We could easily use some labels.

Do we see ourselves by our nationality: Americans, Polish, South African, etc.? It is easy to use these labels when describing ourselves or others, isn’t it?

Do we look at ourselves through our daily work? Our occupation?

How Does God Define You?

But let’s think for a moment: have you ever wondered how God defines you? How does your heavenly Father see you? What is His perspective of who we are? As we look at the Biblical story, what does God reveal to us about our true identity in Christ? Continue Reading…